There’s no getting away from it - planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you’ll do in life.
Which is odd, because it’s also one of the most exciting and joyous.
This creates a huge amount of anxiety, stress and frustration in lots of soon-to-be-wed couples, and it’s totally understandable. Certainly, if you’re feeling anxious about planning your own wedding right now, you’re no different to anyone else.
The good news is that there are some tried-and-tested methods for reducing or completely eradicating anxiety linked to wedding planning. So, without further ado, here’s our five favourite tips for what to do when planning your wedding gets too much.
This takes some practice, but the more you do it, the better you’ll get at it, like anything in life.
You’ll know that dreaded feeling of wedding anxiety; it approaches you quickly, but pretty inconspicuously. So, with that in mind, try and anticipate when you’re heading into the anxiety zone and avoid it entirely by dropping the planning and doing something completely different.
Picking an engagement ring might be one of the hardest tasks when it comes to weddings, but it pales in comparison to some of the decisions you have to make when it comes to the planning stage.
Who to invite, who not to invite, how much money to spend on the venue; the choices and options are endless.
The easiest way to get around this form of wedding anxiety is to simply make decisions. Be decisive by reminding yourselves that this is your day, no one else’s.
There’s a brilliant saying: comparison is the thief of joy.
One of the biggest reasons people get stressed during wedding planning is because they continually compare their own big day to someone else’s.
Don’t. Remember that saying above. This is your day, and unique to you as a couple. And, guess what - it’ll be amazing! The more you time you spend comparing, the more likely you are to have to reschedule entirely.
Accept that things will go wrong. Not big things, but small things - and that’s totally manageable.
However, it’s only manageable if you have contingencies in place.
So, think about contingencies for as many outcomes as possible. Backup entertainment, a second venue on standby, and all forms of clothing and protection to cope with all forms of weather will put your mind at ease.
The more prepared you are for every eventuality, the less stressed you’ll be - it’s that simple.
This one is a little harder than the rest, but very important.
A bit like things going wrong, you can bet your bottom dollar that there’s some form of drama on the lead up to the big day.
Whether it’s certain people not being invited or something else, steer clear of it and focus on each other. The drama will soon subside and it’ll be like it never happened.
The takeaway today really is that this is your day. The more in control of it you are and the more selfish (as terrible as that sounds) you are, the less anxious you’ll feel.
And remember - if it all gets too much, just take a break from planning. You can always return to it tomorrow.